S2, E4: Authenticity & Attachment with Aundi Kolber

a conversation about relational wounds and compassionate healing

Sarah talks with Aundi Kolber (therapist and author of Try Softer™ and Strong Like Water) about the interplay between authenticity and attachment. They talk about how our sense of belonging and ability to connect are affected when we carry unrepaired relational wounds. Aundi also offers some hard-earned wisdom on how we can take small steps toward healing while still honoring the experiences that have brought us where we are.

Episode Notes

• Strong Like Water by Aundi Kolber

• “People have two needs: attachment and authenticity. When authenticity threatens attachment, attachment will trump authenticity.”  –Dr. Gabor Maté

• The window of tolerance

• Three types of attachment: secure, avoidant, and anxious

• Psychology Today (Aundi’s recommended resource for finding a licensed practitioner, ideally with a trauma-informed lens and who may be familiar with EMDR and attachment theory)

• Book Resources (from Aundi):

  • Strong Like Water

  • Strong Like Water: Guided Journey

  • Try Softer

  • The Try Softer Guided Journey

• Allan Schore (rupture & repair)

Connect with Aundi

• Website: AundiKolber.com

• Instagram: @aundikolber

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